Patience is a virtue when you are arguing and when you are having sex. To be patient when your penis won't go in just right, or when she hurts you by moving in a funny direction, or when she is not quite into it, or when you are tired, or when... the list could go on. The fact remains that your spouse will respond sexually when you are patient with her inside and outside of the bed. She will not be afraid to be vulnerable with you for fear of an outburst. She will also know that it is ok for her to take her time in sex. These first two steps are so critical to great sex, but so difficult to practice. It is relatively easy to put your penis inside your wife, but it is a real man's challenge to create a secure environment and be patient with your wife even when all the odds are against you. The next part relies on fulfilling the first two pieces. At this point, if you read this far, you might say "whatever," and skip over the first two. I urge you to spend 70% of your time on the first two parts and the others will follow much more easily. You will also feel a greater sense of satisfaction because it will be easier for your wife to orgasm with security and patience in place. If you haven't touched your wifes clitoris, read the next page and start touching it tonight.